By Choi Won Hee
There are many elements that influence children's growth, for example,
family, school, community and so on. And there are important people in
their lives. There are parents and school teachers. In fact, we know how
important teachers' role is and who good teachers are. So we try to develop
good teachers. But most parents make mistakes, and these mistakes influence
their children very much. For that reason, I'll mention parents' role--as
children's models--in Korea, now. And I'll touch on several desirable types
of parents' actions that are imitated by children. Therefore, I want to
propose that Korean parents must change.
First, most Korean parents think they own their children. It is a conservative
idea. They just order children to do what they tell them to do. For example,
when they want their children to study English, they say to their children,
"You must memorize ten English words every day! You must write two English
sentences. You must read an English book," and so on. Many parents demand
that their children do things like that. So most children are easily tired.
Therefore, we have to judge if such attitudes are desirable or undesirable.
Of course, they are undesirable, and they can give their children negative
influence, because such orders are resisted by their children.
When parents order children to do something, they never consider children's
feelings. So they can hurt children's feelings. If so, what should they
do? They must take action. Before they say to their children, "You must
read an English book every day," the parents have to read an English book
every day. In the same way, they first must write English sentences and
memorize ten English words with their children. They must set a good example
before they order their children to do something. After that, their children
will imitate their parents' actions.
Second, Korean parents don't pay attention to all their actions and speech.
For example, when they see their children's faults, they say things to
their children like, "Stop swearing at other people. Don't run in the room.
Don't fight with your friends." But I think their scolding is not fair.
In fact, they often swear at their children and other people. They often
run in the room. Then, if the parents do that, what do their children learn
from them? Scolding children doesn't positively influence them.
In conclusion, Korean parents must show desirable speech and action to
their children first. Even if they weren't influenced positively by adults
when they were little, now they should act desirably. And they must remember
that all their actions are imitated by their children. So they must always
be careful. We adults must now change to become children's good models.