By Ahn Soo Kyoung ("Judy")
When we were in the third grade of middle school, we were partners in the
same class. It was the beginning of our friendship. I didn't talk to her
at first, because she looked calm and shy. She didn't say anything to me,
either. So I felt that she disliked me, and I wanted to change my partner.
After three days, however, I courageously asked her name and telephone
number. She told me that her name was Hye-ok, and I suggested to her shyly,
"Would you like to go to eat ddokbokki* with me after
school?" She smiled at me brightly. After that day, we became ddokbokki
partners. She also frequently cooked delicious ddokbokki for me.
Hye-ok was very quiet and shy, while I was rash and extroverted. So we
often quarreled about a trivial matter and turned sulky. But as time went
on, we got used to each other's personality and tried to accept it. I accepted
her introversion, and she taught me a careful attitude and patience. She
often advised me to correct my bad habits, such as careless acts and rash
decisions. In this way, she gave me a lot of advice. She also gave me many
kinds of presents.
Among the presents, there was one most valuable present. It changed me
and supported my life. Of course, it still supports me now and will continue
to do so. That present was my religion, a belief in God. When I was in
a difficult situation preparing for the high school entrance exam, she
always prayed for me. One day, she took me to her church. "Soo Kyoung!
Have you ever prayed for something you want?" she asked.
"No, I haven't," I answered. But I started going along with her to church
on Sundays. In spite of my awkward prayer, I always prayed seriously and
was relieved from my difficult situation and agony through my religion.
Without noticing it, religion began to occupy a big part of my life.
We stood at an important crossroads in our life. We had to choose whether
to go to a commercial high school or a general high school. We cried so
much and prayed that we would make the correct choice. Although she wanted
to enter a general high school, her family was so poor that she had to
give up that plan. Eventually, she entered a commercial high school, and
I prepared for the general high school entrance exam. As I studied, she
was my supporter and adviser. Whenever I was discouraged because of the
exam, she helped me gain a lot of courage. After we entered our separate
high schools, we didn't often meet. But she kept in touch with me. In spite
of her busy life, she sent letters to me twice a week and checked whether
I was studying hard or if I was in good health. During three years of high
school, she paid close attention to me. For example, she comforted me when
I had trouble adapting to my new high school at first, when I suffered
from stomachaches because of stress, etc.
Since middle school graduation, six years have passed. Hye-ok is a company
employee and gets a salary now. With her salary, we often go to eat ddokbokki
and recall our memories of six years ago. She is still my supporter and
adviser, just like she was six years ago. In the end, I would like to describe
her as my present. Among all of the gifts I have received, Hye-ok was my
most valuable and appreciated present.
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*ddokbokki
- a broiled dish of sliced rice cake, meat, eggs, seasoning, etc.