Children Need Their Mothers
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By An Hyun-suk ("Emily")

        Felonious juvenile crimes have been on a sharp rise these days. This is one of the most serious social problems. I think the cause is the shortage of love. Because the juveniles were not loved by their parents, especially their mothers, in their babyhood, they might not be able to love other people and the world. Babyhood is the most important time of all growth periods.
        Above all, the intellectual and emotional faculties are built up at that time. Besides, one's personality is formed at the same time. According to their parents' influence, the children's human nature will become different. Nowadays, society considers the emotional faculties to be a great deal of weight on children. So impetuous mothers torment their children who are going to elementary school. For example, the mothers buy expensive training aids and force their children to study them, or they send their children to various educational institutes: piano, fine arts, composition, etc. But their emotional faculties are not made in that way. I heard that when the mother bought a walking stick for her father with her son, his emotional faculties increased highly.
        Kohlberg said that the sense of morality is constituted before about thirteen years of age. And an American psychopathologist, Erikson, said that the social nature is determined before the same age. As it were, in accordance with their parents' attitude of bringing up children, they may or may not be able to become adults who are self-regulating, trust the world, and take the lead in social life.
        For these reasons, I think a woman who has young children should not have a job outside the home until they graduate from elementary school at least. Furthermore, if the mothers are in the home, they can breastfeed their babies. This helps to develop their resistance power to disease. Also, while mothers are breastfeeding their babies making eye contact, the babies will feel a sense of security and come to learn what love is. Therefore, at the most important time, babyhood and childhood, mothers must be in the home.


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