By Lee Sang-myoung ("Johann")
Published in The Korea Times, Student Forum, July 9, 2000
Nowadays, an open attitude toward sex is spreading all over the world.
In Europe and America, sex is already a common topic of discussion and
is thought of as a natural part of life. Europeans and Americans think
of sex as a basic desire and feel no shame about it.
Since the 1990s, there have been several noteworthy sexual controversies
in Korea. First, there have been some movies that have contained controversial
bedroom scenes; examples include Lies, Yellow Hair, and Happy End. The
movies contained explicit bedroom scenes and even contained examples of
sexual perversion. They caused Korean society to argue about whether they
should be put on the big screen or not. Viewers expressed shock about the
graphic sexual expression in the movies; they considered it to be harmful
to teenagers.
There was also a book, Sometimes I Want to Be A Leading Actress of Pornography,
written last year by actress Seo Gap-sook. The work took most Koreans were
taken by surprise. She revealed her sexual experiences, including those
with her ex-husband and other men, in a frank manner. Furthermore, she
wrote her feelings about and the situations leading to her experiences
in great detail. Before the publication of her essay, Korean _ particularly
Korean took the topic of sex from the shadows to the forefront of discussion.
The essay was criticized, however, because it was considered by many to
be too commercial.
For a couple to live together before marriage is not unusual in Korea these
days. One Korean newspaper, Hankyorae, reported on May 5, 2000, that the
phenomenon of cohabitation before wedlock is growing among the young. One
website even offers to act as a mediator between people who wish to live
together before marrying. The surprising fact is that most of the visitors
responded positively to the site. And commonly found on the bulletin boards
of universities are advertisements containing phrases like, ``Want a roommate.
Regardless of sex.''
The year before last, there was a television program called A-u-song (``For
Our Beautiful Sex''). It helped encourage Korean society to be more open
to discussions of a sexual nature. Before the program, many Koreans thought
that sex was something to be kept secret, but the program forced the subject
onto its viewers, making it one of necessity. Korean people discovered
the importance of sex education through the program. Unfortunately, one
reason the show was so popular was because it was made for commercial purposes.
Being open to sex-related topics is essential for Korean society. Korean
people used to close themselves off from discussions of sex and this, in
turn, yielded several side effects. On the other hand, an open attitude
can prevent sex crimes and enables teenagers to learn correct information
about sex from the start. However, we still need to consider the best direction
to take. It would be wrong for directors to create movies containing an
excess of bedroom scenes and television programs all about sexual matters
in order to gain high ratings.
We should open our minds to sex while also steering ourselves in the right
direction. Sexual freedom does not mean self-indulgence. Koreans need to
develop an open attitude toward sex in the proper way.